Offer and Ask

Subject: 
Teacher: 
Rubber Band: 
Question: 

What is the offer and ask approach?

Answer: 

Assure Your Spouse that you care about how they feel, and you're willing to work with them, but also let them know that you expect that they will be willing to work with you, too (e.g., "Hey, I'm trying to work with you here, but it feels like I'm not getting it back! Will you work with me?").